Did you see that Target’s Universal Thread Line is officially launched and available online (aka the Madewell lovers dream)?! Things are already selling out fast! Below are a few of my faves, including this insane bag!!!
What does your husband do for work?
Josh graduated law school from UCLA and is an in-house attorney for an energy company in Santa Barbara. We loved the student life but are so excited to be done (7 years and 3 kids later)!
How does your husband feel about having parts of your life so public?
I think we both feel that most of our life is very private. I just recently dropped the bomb about my past on all of you (now in my insta story highlights). He was extremely supportive of me sharing about my past and in the way that I did. Especially after reading the several messages from friends and readers I think we both realized that it gave hope and courage to some. As far as safety goes I never would post a picture of the front of my house, my children’s schools, etc. Also, with insta stories I always record videos and pictures and post them once I have left that exact area.
Is your husband an “Instagram Husband?”
Let’s just say Josh ain’t no “Instagram husband.” He is a decent sport with it all but the dude doesn’t even have Instagram. He is supportive in the fact that he knows I enjoy it all and he will let me kinda do my thang. But he also gives his opinions and tells me when certain things aren’t his favorite.
I think it is all too common on social media for an influencer or mom-boss to Insta-brag all over the internet that her husband is THE most supportive and devoted man behind it all!!! Which, great for them! But I think it is important to realize that most men are not going to be super into your insta feed (especially in the beginning when it is taking more time and money than you are actually making).
So if you don’t have the “quintessential Instagram-husband” know that you are not alone and that it is OKAY. Even though at times it would be nice to have my husband be my personal photographer following me around like a puppy dog (at least that’s what I used to think), I also love his grounded approach to it all. He wants to be in the moment as a couple and as a family! He wants to enjoy our wonderful, messy life together as a family without a cellphone or expensive camera in everyone’s faces.
What does your husband think of your blogging biz?
First off, let me tell you my thoughts about it. I definitely do not take it or myself as a blogger too seriously. Let’s be real, it’s kind of a funny thing! On one hand it is a lot of girls’ dream job but on the other hand it is hard to be taken as a serious job. I think to be a really good and successful blogger, it without a doubt, takes a toooon of hard work, skill, and consistency (that last one is my weak point). Since being in the blogger realm I have gained so much respect for those women who are hustling and staying so on top of their brand, message, schedule- everything!
But if you really strip it down, I feel like it is kinda like the Kardashian phenomenon. Everyone is used to them now and reality stars are becoming a dime a dozen but in their early days everyone was appalled (and I’m sure many still are) that these women with little talent are all of a sudden famous- for doing nothing! But at the end of the day those Kardashians are HUST-LERS! Even though their jobs have a lot of glamorous aspects to them, they are also working like dogs to keep up with their empires. So that is how I kinda feel about blogging. I never introduce myself as a blogger, it’s not something I feel like I get my value from or identify with; however, it is what I do for work. When someone asks what I do I say I am a stay-at-home-mom and I work a little from home running a fashion website. If they really want to know my background I’ll share some more of my entrepreneurial endeavors I’ve done along the way.
And I think that is how Josh feels about it all. It is definitely not an area that he is super interested in or would want to help me pursue. He isn’t a fan of the worldly/materialistic aspect that comes with it all (which I totally understand and can level with). But at the end of the day I know he really appreciates my hard work and the financial support I have brought to the table these past years. He also is very aware that it has all come at a cost. It is extremely hard to work from home with young kids, especially while my husband has been in school and having no family living near us.
A few months ago I finally decided to put the brakes on my personal endeavors and start really focusing on my family who desperately needed me (I don’t think I’m as great of a multitasker as I thought I was). Our life has been so much more enjoyable, peaceful, and less stressful. I know not everyone can or wants to stop or drastically cut down on work. But it has been the biggest blessing in my personal and family life to finally slow down and more fully enjoy all that is around me and matters most.